Solitude and Aloneness, from Psychology Today

Two comprehensive articles from Psychology Today discuss the benefits of solitude: “Growing, Learning, Connecting: The Benefits of Being Alone,” by Bella DePaulo and “Eight Ways to Embrace Solitude,” by Virginia Thompson.

Observations from the first article: UK scientists conducting surveys identified two positive themes from participants: that solitude is peaceful and that solitude experiences are usually chosen and valued. Older adults made these points more emphatically than younger adults or adolescents. These positive observations centered around personal growth, competence, autonomy, interpersonal connection, self-care, and an appreciation of nature and the environment. Only two items were cited as negatives of solitude: disrupted well-being and alienation.

Observations from the second article: The author notes that an appreciation of solitude requires as preliminaries skills of self-comprehension and practical strategies. Eight such skills or methods might include: 1. Enjoy solitary activities; 2. Ability to regulate emotions; 3. Introspection. Protecting one’s time to safeguard solitude include skills such as 4. Making time to be alone; 5. Being mindful of how time in solitude is spent; 6. Validating the need for solitude, correcting the bias of society towards extraversipon. Finally, learning to balance further safeguards solitude. 7. Listening for one’s solitude signals is an important skill for self-assessment of motive and feelings; 8. Knowing when to exit solitude balances emtions, opther skills, and self in the world.

URL: (DePaulo article) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202201/growing-learning-connecting-the-benefits-being-alone; (Thompson article): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/solitude-in-social-world/202202/8-ways-embrace-solitude.

Arthur C. Brooks: Life Advice

For simple but wise life advice, Arthur C. Brooks at Atlantic is a consistently useful resource. His little essays perfectly fit in a world of pragmatism and individual efforts to survive if not thrive. Brooke, a Harvard social scientist, is approachable and down-to-earth. Watch or listen for echoes of the Stoics, Cynics, and Taoists. Brooke also has a pocast titled How to Build a Happy Life and writtes his short pithy practical pointed little essays every week or so. Here are a few recent favorites from the last couple of months:

How to Want Less
Art Should be a Habit, Not a Luxury
Live Like the Ancient Cynics
Listen to Your Own Advice
When You Can’t Change the World, Change Your Feelings
How to Identify What You Enjoy
Quit Lying to Yourself
No One Cares!
What Winter-Haters Get Wrong
How to Know That You Know Nothing
How Not to Be Your Own Worst Enemy
How to Know You’re Lonely
How to be Self-Aware

URL: the essays: https://www.theatlantic.com/author/arthur-c-brooks/;
the podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/how-to-build-a-happy-life/

“How to be Useless” and “Going Slow”

Popularizing Eastern philosophy for practica life experience are a couple of recent articles. Online magazine Psyche offers a short piece on Taoism : “How to be Useless,” with the byline: “Follow the Daoist way – reclaim your life and happiness by letting go of the need to produce, strive or serve a purpose.” Another article is “Going Slow” in Daily Philosophy, discussing the “rhetoric os slowness” found in Confucian, Buddhist, and Taoist texts.

URL: https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-wander-free-and-easy-through-life-by-being-useless and https://daily-philosophy.com/kidd-going-slow/.

Marcus Moon, Scotland hermit


Marcus Moon of the Scottish village of Lybster, a hermit living off-grid, without power or running water, recently self-published a book in tribute to Mobius, a goat he befriended and kept in youthful years when he was an itinerant busker with horse and wagon — and goats. Settling in the small rural spot, Moon assembled his house himself and planted gardens, trees, and an extensive orchard . He hopes that the native trees will become a forest.

Marcus Moon with the book he recently self-published about his travels with Morbius the goat. Picture: DGS

Moon tells the John O’Groat Journal and Caithness Courier that his book celebrates “a way of life that has been lost … It’s about a way of life that was community based and where everybody knew their neighbours and things were produced locally. That way of life has just been thrown aside. A lot of the old style of community has been lost – that is a big theme of the book.”

URL: https://www.johnogroat-journal.co.uk/news/pictures-lybster-hermits-book-is-tribute-to-morbius-the-go-261331/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=facebook



“River Dave,” NH hermit – Update

Among the many news sources covering this update to the life of hermit Dave Lidstone of New Hampshire is this update from WCVB television in Boston; the story title: “Former hermit ‘River Dave’ arrested after returning to live at New Hampshire cabin site.”

When Dave was first arrested for squatting on the land of a particular millionaire owner, he spent the night in jail, and in the meantime a hireling of the owner set about to disassemble Dave ‘s cabin. The hireling burned the cabin to the ground, supposedly an electrical accident. But a shed was spared, and eventiually Dave made his way back to the property and took up residence in the remnant shed. That return was discovered, Dave was arrested again, and the entire issue has returned to its original conflict. Meanwhile, old residents of the area, friends of Dave, continue to promise more permanent quarters for Dave come spring.

URL: https://www.wcvb.com/article/evicted-new-hampshire-hermit-river-dave-arrested-january-4-2022/38668845